The ego made up judgment to minimize its fear of chaos through control. In relationship, control takes the form of boundaries. Spirit will guide you in appropriately letting go of your boundaries.
When the mind seemed to separate from God, it was a chaotic experience, and so the ego invented rules and boundaries to repress the feeling of chaos from awareness. The ego made up the cosmos and all its limits as a way of trying to limit the feeling of chaos. But the ego is merely a belief in lack; a belief that you are not already whole and complete in God. The Holy Spirit tells us that if we let go of the rules and control, all will be Love. God is Pure Love.