False empathy, or care-taking, is generally seen as being nice and good, but it is part of the ego’s death wish. When you give yourself over to Spirit, your perception of what is truly helpful will change. You come to see that you were engaged in trying to save people. It is deception. True empathy is aligning with what is true, bringing it back to your mind, paying attention to your feelings, and not taking on anything false. You no longer care about others’ reactions. You become happy for no earthly reason.
How do we become spiritually strong? David Hoffmeister shares on this topic. To grow implies a process, and a process seems to witness that we are not already that! Non-dual/ACIM teachings point to an experience of our true Identity. While we are identified with weakness and fear it is impossible to have the awareness of our spiritual strength. As the mind opens up to its true Identity, the “how to” is given. Everything that you perceive in this world, without exception, is a motion picture of your mind.
The only thing the ego has to offer is the familiar. The “I know” mind that thinks it knows anything about this world is the same mind that has opinions, judgments, and comparisons. The ego makes there seem to be a sense of safety in that familiarity, but something inside our hearts wants us to open up to a greater sense of love, greater than anything on this earth. Trust will bring us there.
Healing through relationships is practical. Use the relationships that you have in your life now to heal your mind and awaken. You don’t have to be in a monastery chanting “hail Mary” or “om!” It is possible to go through your day and listen to the Holy Spirit without interrupting your regular activities in any way. You will see how the Spirit can use everything you believe in: relationships, spiritual practices, the job you seem to have, the family concept. Anything you believe, the Spirit will lightly use to loosen your mind from it to help you feel more in the unified awareness, the quantum field. If you have a partner or friend, you can tell them what is on your heart.
The identities we have on earth are personalities. Persona comes from the Latin word to wear a mask. So all human beings are Christ masquerading as human beings. As you awaken you realize that you never really had a mother or father. And if you have concerns about biological family relationships, that is still your ego believing in suffering. When you listen to the Holy Spirit, the Holy Spirit tells you that suffering is a call for love.