When someone you are concerned about (such as a daughter) keeps coming to mind, it is a Call for Love to bring to the Holy Spirit. It may or may not call for a specific action (such as calling or emailing the person), but it is always helpful to take it to prayer and look at one’s thoughts. The ego has set up many “ego ideals” such as being a “good-enough mother”, and it’s important to look with honesty at these thoughts and be willing to release them with Spirit’s Help.
What is success? You may have specific ideas about what success would look like in your life. Is it built on a concept like the “American Dream,” or some other artificial standard? These societal ideas about the “success” are like a cosmic fig leaf, covering over the separation and belief in guilt and shame. There is no need to cover anything up. There is nothing to hide.
We think that if we expose our feelings, especially the guilty, unruly, jealous ones, that they will come back to haunt us. But the truth is, this is the beginning of true healing. And at some point, one realizes that it is the only way. “How could I ever think that withholding or hiding these feelings could ever serve?” one eventually asks. It is the most difficult at the beginning, but rather than take stands for, or against, ideas of right and wrong, be honest instead and the way will become very clear. We will open to new ways of being and seeing while the old way begins to be seen as literally insane.
In this video, David speaks on love and relationship. What does it mean to love? The ego’s definition of love is very different from the Spirit’s definition. While the ego can use love to say, “I love my country,” this is objectifying love, and therefore, not it. By attaching it to an object, we break the definition of love! Love has no object. Love is abstract. When we say “I love” and then put something after it, that’s not love. Most of the things we think we love in this world are idols that cover over true love. Love is a state of acceptance.
The context of all relationships is egoic. All relationships start special. The Spirit can work with all things. The Holy Spirit uses your special relationships and when truth is reintroduced into them, they are used to purify the mind.
Specialness is all we’ve known, and the painful part is exposing it. There is seemingly a lot of heartbreak in this unconscious belief in loss. But as you go through it and get deeper into your purpose, you realize you will only be content with a happiness that is everlasting, that won’t go away. Having the constant purpose of forgiveness will unify your perception and stabilize your emotions. You have to go through the darkness to the light. When that intense emotion of specialness is coming up, and you look at it so you can release it, it really has a different purpose.
The ego makes up the story of romance, bodies falling in love and living happily ever after. The real happiness is to get to the happy dream and God will take the final step. The happy dream is a world of non-judgment. The ego’s version always ends in death.
The special relationship is a futile attempt to complete your self by adding another self. But completion can only be found within your mind. Your relationship mirrors what is in your mind. Does it serve the purpose of projection and blame? Or do you use it to help you identify your own feelings, thoughts, and beliefs so you can turn them over to the Holy Spirit?
Release specialness by forgetting the past, releasing it, and finding happiness in the present moment. Release judgment, give past and future over to God, and stop worrying. The future is a scam. “If there are plans to make, you will be told of them.” (W-135.23:2) Let Spirit decide for you.
As soon as we value anything of this world, we have put an attachment and expectations in front of our love. The mind is so powerful, as soon as we want something from this world, the world will want something from us. Specialness is a substitute for this divine love. This is not a path of renunciation, but rather just diving into the joy we’ve always known.