David Hoffmeister shares the practical application of releasing specialness at a New Zealand retreat. When specialness is released, the mind can begin to grasp its purpose and be truly happy.
Special Relationship
Expectations in Relationships
Expectations in relationships can block us from the truth. Relationships mirror your consciousness; they are based on desire and future expectations. When these expectations, such as the desire for companionship, are not met, we feel discomfort. The journey to peace is a journey into consciousness in which layers of expectations and beliefs are uncovered and exposed. As we feel, and look closely at, our discomfort, we can come to see that guilt runs deep beneath it. The way to find completion is to find and follow your inner calling.
Love and Relationships
Love and relationships can be reinterpreted by the Holy spirit if we are willing to see it another way. Love has no object; that is, True Love does not focus on one special relationship or one person. It loves all equally. We can use our personal relationships however, to take us to higher and higher realms of the experience of love, asking always, “what is the purpose?” A holy relationship is really reflective of our True Nature, of our love for God. It is not interpersonal. But the Holy Spirit can use anything the ego has made if it is given to Him. We will learn to check our motives for anything we do, particularly in relationship to others.
Fear of Loss in Relationship
There is a tremendous fear of loss in the mind, especially with interpersonal relationships. The ego believes firmly in sacrifice and yet the Spirit knows that sacrifice is impossible. From the Higher perspective it can always be seen that when things or relationships seem to fall away, it is simply to clear the way for the next gift we are to receive. We can trust that the way things naturally unfold in form will always be a blessing if we use it for the purpose of true forgiveness; for bringing us into greater intimacy with our Self and with God.
Control
Be free of the whole control construct: the belief that you can control or be controlled. Through giving and extending, the control concept is rinsed away. In the Text of “A Course in Miracles,” Jesus poses the question: “Do you want freedom of the body or of the mind? For both you cannot have. Which do you value? Which is your goal?” (T-22.1) This question is so direct and you might decide that you want freedom of the mind. But what is freedom of the mind? David Hoffmeister shares that when you engage in mind training, you can see the control concept clearly.
To Know Thyself You Need to Forgive
To know thyself as an eternal being, you must practice forgiveness. This video follows a discussion on the purpose of marriage. David Hoffmeister goes into depth on the discipline of practicing forgiveness. David shares that the Holy Spirit has given you all of the forms in your classroom and now you must decide to use them for the purpose of going beyond this world. Is a spouse the form you’ve been given? Let this form take you into the awareness of your eternal self.
It’s Easy to Love and Hard to Hate
It is easy to love and it is hard to hate. Explore this ACIM healing reminder: Love is your resting state, while hate takes effort. You have to actually judge, which is not in your nature, in order to hate. Love is natural. It is who you are. Therefore, all situations can only have one outcome: an experience of love. This is why getting married or breaking up is the same thing: a call for love. It is simply a time for healing for everyone involved. It is natural to love in all instances. It’s hard for you to hate or even have a grievance. So you might as well surrender the mind to God by giving up silly human identities.
Ego’s Purpose for Dating and Relationships
David Hoffmeister explains the ego’s purpose for dating and relationships as spoken about in “A Course in Miracles.” The ego has needs and wants, expects to get something, and is selective in what it presents.
Holy Spirit’s Purpose for Relationships
David Hoffmeister explores the topic of special and holy relationships. The purpose is key in understanding the difference between the ego’s purpose and the Holy Spirit’s purpose for relationships, things, events, and encounters. Consistently aligning with this purpose of forgiveness takes mind training. When we are living in purpose, we simply accept what is given. The script is written, so we can let go, and allow ourselves to be gently carried down a river of love.
Transform Your Mind into Wholeness
Transform your mind. Give away the filter that is in place that is specialness. Specialness is the desire to get. It is the ego’s lens of seeing the world. Without this filter, you transform your mind into holiness; wholeness. The mind that believes it is separate is not satisfied with its self-image, so it wants to get more. The separate self wants to improve. It is constantly seeking and investing energy and time, and then feeling unsatisfied.