“No” is an absolutely essential word in the vocabulary of the Holy Spirit. It is not helpful to get into bargaining in relationships, constantly compromising, people-pleasing in order to be liked. This reinforces the idea of “my way” and “your way.” When you tune in to guidance and prompts you can confidently say “no.” No’s from the Holy Spirit are firm no’s: “No, but thank you for asking.”
We are often tempted to choose where it’s not really possible. Most of the choices we make in this world are of the same order, and the questions we typically ask make no sense in Reality. Choices become easier when we follow the Holy Spirit (Peace); we will feel in harmony and flow with life. Ask only one question in any situation: “What is it for?” That’s very different from the ego saying, “What are the pros and cons here?” A mind in turmoil is not an inspired place from which to make decisions.
Look at your thoughts. Are my thoughts fearful? What is the purpose or motive underneath? Believing there is spirit in matter, in doing certain behaviors, is to miss the point. Let those thoughts go. You are a saint in training. Purify your mind. Begin to think of yourself as holy. Focus on your mind, not form. Remind yourself, “I am worth the goal of peace of mind.”
The ego tries to project the error of separation from God out into the world of images, concretes, and specifics. Behavior, actions, and people are the focus. Through “A Course in Miracles,” Jesus trains us to see that there are no mistakes in behavior; the only mistake is the egoic wrong mind. Learning to be right-minded and choosing the correction is what the spiritual journey is all about.
Salvation is like a needle in a haystack of false beliefs and it is our mission to find this needle. Every piece of hay which hides that needle is a thought based on a spurious cause/effect relationship: that anything of time and space can have an effect on our mind or upon anything else in time and space. Only the mind is causative and to accept this without exception is to accept the Atonement and remember true Freedom.
The Holy Spirit is a decision and the ego is a decision. One is a decision to forget who you are and the other is a decision to remember. This world was made by the ego as an attempt to keep them both active as if good and evil can coexist. It is better to see it as the mind vacillating back and forth between the two decisions. Decisions are continuous but they are not fully in awareness. For example, people are not usually aware that an illness is the result of a decision.
In Heaven, or pure Oneness, there are no decisions to be made, for there is nothing to decide between. But to the sleeping mind which has denied Oneness, decision-making is a constant process made very complex by the ego. The Holy Spirit, however, can simplify our decision-making process by undoing the false belief system that underlies it. We need merely be willing to step back and let Him “decide for God for me” (T-5.VII.6:11) each time a decision is to be made. This prayerful practice is not only practical on the level of form, but will undo the ego layer by layer, leading the mind back to choiceless awareness and ultimately, back into God.
David Hoffmeister shares on “tuning in” and listening to the Holy Spirit and Jesus, and shares examples from his own life. Listening to the Holy Spirit rather than the ego takes a lot of discernment. On the most basic level, it is asking yourself, “How do I feel?” The deeper you go into miracle-working, the more you start to see there is, in truth, no difference between major and minor decisions. “A Course in Miracles” is a tool to use to help the mind tune into inner guidance from the Holy Spirit.
There are many tools the Holy Spirit has given us to align back into our true nature. Whether it’s using the “Rules for Decision” in the book, “A Course in Miracles,” or the first two commandments in the Bible, all these tools help us keep the Kingdom of Heaven in focus.