It takes a lot of mind training to become clear about your yes and no. In our community we use the elder brother approach. One who has gone before and who is consistently peaceful is someone to join with. The ego is concerned with autonomy. It takes much letting go of autonomous decisions to come into alignment with the Holy Spirit, to be done through by Spirit.
The body’s eyes do not see. The first 10 lessons of “A Course in Miracles” lay out this idea very clearly and springboard into the grandaddy of all ideas, “God is in everything I see because God is in my mind.” (W-29) Of course, God isn’t in the table as I see it. Yet the practical element, while I still believe I see through the body’s eyes, is seeing the purpose the table holds along with all the universe: to know I am one with Source. The Holy Spirit equalizes all the images of the world and shows me their sameness so I can be steady and at peace. When I see differences, I am blind. Coming into spiritual vision, I start to see sameness and my mind begins to loosen from the inability to judge. The result is truly peace.