Authentically healing anger and rage ultimately comes down to working with thoughts. Expressing anger with the body can be useful initially to break through patterns of repression and denial but ultimately it is the thoughts that need to be released.
Human beings look for evidence. They interpret their perception of sick people as proof that sickness is real. But they are actually perceiving “False Evidence Appearing Real.” The ego mind believes in sickness and projects out false images that it then perceives as real. It is a case of projection making perception.
The identities we have on earth are personalities. Persona comes from the Latin word to wear a mask. So all human beings are Christ masquerading as human beings. As you awaken you realize that you never really had a mother or father. And if you have concerns about biological family relationships, that is still your ego believing in suffering. When you listen to the Holy Spirit, the Holy Spirit tells you that suffering is a call for love.
When defensiveness in relationships arise ask yourself, “What am I defending?” In all cases it’s some aspect of our own self-concept; some aspect or image of what we’ve identified with. The deeper you go into spirituality, you start to realize that however it looks on the screen of the world, you are only ever talking or listening to yourself. The ego feels it is lacking and incomplete, and so it looks at a relationship partner to fill that lack. It thinks it deserves love and it looks for a partner to fulfill that love.
Attack thoughts are kept as long as a distinction is made between the inner emotional world and the external world. The ego sees a big difference between being the victim and being the attacker. It asks who’s right and who’s wrong; who deserves forgiveness? But the ego itself is the attack thought. Nothing out in the world can alleviate your upset. If you see that victim and victimizer are the same, then you’ll be ready to let attack go. You must look at the nonspecific anger in your mind, get in touch with it and bring it up. It’s not pretty, but Spirit can handle it. Then you want to let it go.