People-pleasing is an insidious defense. The way through it is integrity of mind. We are responsible for our state of mind; not for our erroneous thoughts, but for their correction. To correct them we must become aware of the beliefs that are generating them. For example, when we become aware of, and step away from, the belief in competition, we become more peaceful. Rather than live in fear of the possible reactions of others, we become authentic and stay in integrity with the truth . . .