Spirit-inspired courtesy is different from people-pleasing. Ego whims and genuine calls for help are both to be recognized. Saying no to everything is not helpful.
People-pleasing as automatic behavior is based on self-concepts of who you believe you are in the world. These conditioned ways of being are so ingrained and lead to tiredness and boredom. The self-concept extends from yourself out into the entire universe, but you are only aware of the close constellation that seems to sap you out of your mind’s energy. You are making a decision for the whole universe. You are the whole universe and you teach the universe all the time with your thoughts.