What can you do when you feel betrayed? The game of guilt, rage, and blame has gone on long enough! It’s time to end it. If you feel like someone has hurt you, it is helpful to remember Jesus’ attitude through the crucifixion. He was facing what the ego would see as extreme persecution. His attitude was kind and soft with everything and everyone. This example is for the mind that faces the temptation of unkind thoughts.
For David Hoffmeister A Course in Miracles lead him to see anger in a new way. David shares that in his own life, his biological father seemed to have a great deal of anger. As he practiced mind-watching he was able to really look at his perception of another body’s rage. It wasn’t anger directed at him. He saw that everyone in the world is doing the best that they can do within their belief system. Each body is just acting out a belief system; acting out a role as if it’s an identity.
The ego has assigned the roles each person in your life plays out. Those roles are heavy. They’re full of feelings of mistreatment or guilt over not doing enough. David let go of the belief in roles. This healed his relationship with his biological father by letting them both off of the hook that the role of father or son had placed them on.
Betrayal is linked to the belief in loyalty. There is one thing that is worthy of our loyalty, but it is the last thing we would imagine it to be. Therefore it is not surprising that we are loyal to everything but this one thing. Even a spiritual path takes our attention above peace of mind. This is indeed the one thing worthy of our loyalty.
“Betrayal is really tied into this thing called loyalty. A lot of us have been raised with family loyalty, loyalty to country, loyalty to a culture that we have been raised with. Or we can be loyal to certain values that we hold dear. I started to see how loyalty and betrayal were really connected. It was my strong investment in loyalty that was triggering my betrayal. The thought was, ‘If I wasn’t so loyal, I wouldn’t have such intense betrayal issues.’”