We think that if we expose our feelings, especially the guilty, unruly, jealous ones, that they will come back to haunt us. But the truth is, this is the beginning of true healing. And at some point, one realizes that it is the only way. "How could I ever think that withholding or hiding these feelings could ever serve?" one eventually asks. It is the most difficult at the beginning, but rather than take stands for, or against, ideas of right and wrong, be honest instead and the way will become very clear. We will open to new ways of . . .