Any sense of guilt in relationships, whether it’s big or small, is showing you your belief in separation. It is like the ego has dealt you a hand of cards. Each card is a relationship. Every single relationship has guilt in it. The Spirit wants you to play fifty-two card pick-up! Reshuffle the entire deck. Give each relationship over to the Holy Spirit. Some of the cards will be given back to you with His purpose and in His order. Some of the cards will disappear! Shift to a place of absolute trust. Feel the Holy Spirit work through you in each relationship.
When you start to travel down a road of self-discovery, you might find yourself frustrated with family members who seem negative or fearful. Why isn’t my family happy? Why don’t they get it? Why won’t they listen? You feel like you could help them if only they would hear your insights. As Jesus said in the Bible, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers? … whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” (Matthew 12:48-50) How do family relationships change as you unwind from the world?
It is the concepts in the mind that seem to be fragmented into many separate parts. All the world’s a stage and the divine Mind can play no part. When we awaken from the fragmentation, the world ceases to exist. “A Course in Miracles” is calling us into the experience of revelation, which is like blazing light. Most of us are not ready for revelation, but we are ready for miracles.
Family roles seem to involve hierarchy, but Jesus teaches equality through “A Course in Miracles.” With mind training, parents learn their role is completed. The hierarchy of control is over. Teenagers act out the private mind so you can see it. As you let go of seeing it as a personal attack, you can see it as a call for love.
The identities we have on earth are personalities. Persona comes from the Latin word to wear a mask. So all human beings are Christ masquerading as human beings. As you awaken you realize that you never really had a mother or father. And if you have concerns about biological family relationships, that is still your ego believing in suffering. When you listen to the Holy Spirit, the Holy Spirit tells you that suffering is a call for love.
In this video, David Hoffmeister gives us an invitation into the mystical experience. Your true responsibility is not to judge anything that is happening in form. We learn to value presence and devotion rather than behavior. We want to live our lives with such devotion that we let all concerns of this world fade away. The ego’s identity depends on doing. It would be gone completely if there was no doer, and that’s exactly what happens. You remain as God created you. That’s the key.
People-pleasing is an insidious defense. The way through it is integrity of mind. We are responsible for our state of mind; not for our erroneous thoughts, but for their correction. To correct them we must become aware of the beliefs that are generating them. For example, when we become aware of, and step away from, the belief in competition, we become more peaceful. Rather than live in fear of the possible reactions of others, we become authentic and stay in integrity with the truth.